What does aging alone really look like? For many older adults, it means handling healthcare, finances, and daily life without a built-in safety net.
Solo aging is becoming more common as family structures shift and people live longer.
Seniors risk isolation or financial instability without thoughtful planning, but independence and security are within reach with the right strategy.
On March 5, The Kensington Reston hosted a national webinar, “Caring for Solo Agers: Building Your Support System for Successful Aging,” with Steve Gurney, founder of Positive Aging Community. Gurney shared his expert insights and proven program for building a robust support system.
Whether you or a loved one is aging solo, this discussion provided practical guidance and actionable steps for a fulfilling, well-planned future.
Keep reading to learn more on how to build a reliable support network, resources available for solo agers, and the proactive steps to take to ensure a secure and fulfilling aging journey.
What is solo aging? Understanding the growing trend
What does it mean to age without immediate family support? Solo agers are individuals who, by choice or circumstance, do not have immediate family—such as a spouse or children—to assist them as they grow older.
This is the reality for approximately 22 million older adults in the United States who are aging alone.
This group includes:
- Never-married or child-free individuals who don’t have children to rely on
- Divorced or widowed seniors without close family connections
- Those with distant or estranged family members who may not be involved in their care
Many older adults outlive their spouses and siblings, while some have children who live far away or cannot provide care. This shift means more people must take an active role in shaping their own aging experience.
While solo aging presents challenges—such as planning for healthcare, financial security, and social connections—it also offers opportunities for independence, self-direction, and meaningful relationships outside of family.
With the right plan, solo agers can create a secure and fulfilling future on their own terms.
Staying socially, mentally, and physically engaged
Isolation is the enemy of solo agers. You must keep engaged—on purpose.
Keep your mind sharp by learning something new, whether it’s a hobby, a language, or a skill. Movement matters, too. Walk, stretch, or dance—whatever keeps you active.
Build real connections. Don’t wait for people to check in on you. Call an old friend, join a group, or volunteer. Put yourself in places where you’ll meet others. Technology makes socializing easier than ever.
Why solo agers need a strong support system
You don’t have family nearby? Create your own support network! Friends, neighbors, or even younger acquaintances can become trusted allies. Intergenerational relationships matter. A younger friend today could be a helping hand tomorrow.
Building a safety net for aging alone
If you don’t plan, the system will do it for you. Choose a healthcare proxy now.
- Healthcare Proxy Form: Legally designates someone to make medical decisions if you cannot.
- Power of Attorney (POA): Appoint a trusted person to handle healthcare and financial matters.
- Living Will: Documents specific medical treatments you do or don’t want.
- Elder Law Attorney: Helps ensure legal documents comply with state laws.
- HIPAA Release Form: Grants your proxy access to medical records.
- Primary Doctor Discussion: Communicate your preferences and ensure your proxy is listed in medical records.
- Copies for Key People: Give copies to your proxy, doctor, hospital, and lawyer.
- Annual Review: Reassess and update as needed.
Creating a long-term care plan before it’s needed
Don’t wait for a crisis. Know your options now.
Whether it’s aging in place, home care, or assisted living, planning means you choose how you live—not the other way around.
The Kensington Reston offers personalized care to help solo agers stay independent, secure, and connected.
Resources and programs that help solo agers
Where can you turn when you need guidance, companionship, or a helping hand?
The good news is that countless organizations, programs, and online tools are geared toward senior well-being.
Here’s a comprehensive list of resources for seniors to keep on your radar:
- Area Agencies on Aging (AAA): AAA offices across the U.S. offer services such as transportation assistance, meal delivery, and caregiver support. You can find your local AAA through the Eldercare Locator (eldercare.acl.gov).
- AARP: This nationwide nonprofit provides advocacy, discounts, educational webinars, and social events for members. Visit aarp.org for articles, guides, and community forums.
- National Council on Aging (NCOA): Through resources like BenefitsCheckUp®, NCOA helps older adults find financial aid for healthcare costs, housing, utilities, and more.
- Meals on Wheels: A service for anyone struggling with meal preparation or grocery shopping. It delivers nutritious meals—and a friendly visit—straight to your door.
- The Kensington Reston: Our ever-changing calendar of events and social gatherings is perfectly designed to keep members of our community active, connected, and engaged. Our team is also here to support you and your families in navigating the care journey.
- Faith-Based Organizations: Churches, synagogues, mosques, and other faith communities often have volunteer programs for seniors, including rides to appointments and help around the house.
- Senior Planet: Offers free technology classes and workshops (in-person and online), helping older adults stay connected, develop tech skills, and explore new interests.
- Volunteer Match & Local Nonprofits: Volunteering can help you stay social and active, and sometimes, your volunteer site can become a new support system. Visit volunteermatch.org to explore opportunities.
- Reston for a Lifetime provides information and resources on aging in place.
- Eldercare Locator helps you find local senior support resources.
- Village to Village Network is a grassroots nonprofit that aims to build community-driven support and encourage neighbors to care for each other.
Solo aging with confidence at The Kensington Reston
Proactive planning with The Kensington Reston is key to securing the best care plan before an urgent need arises—and we’re here to help you.
As an upscale assisted living and memory care community, we provide a full spectrum of healthcare services so residents can age in place without ever needing to relocate.
Our expertise extends to dementia and Alzheimer’s care, ensuring comprehensive support for every stage of life.
Contact The Kensington Reston team today to discover how our personalized approach makes solo aging simpler, safer, and more fulfilling.